It happens from out of nowhere... your ex sends you a random text-message. Are they just saying hello, or is there something else behind it? And how come they're contacting you now, even though your relationship is seemingly over?
Well depending upon how close you were with your ex, this type of communication is a good sign that he or she isn't ready to let you go. They're reaching out to you on the most informal of levels, in a way that allows them to carefully choose their words. A text means that your ex might not be ready to speak to you yet, and can't really see you face to face. At the same time however, your ex is certainly trying to tell you something.
First things first: there's no such thing as an "innocent" text-message from your ex boyfriend or girlfriend. No matter what your ex would have you believe, they're trying to get in touch with you with ulterior motives in mind.. In most cases, your ex is thinking about you. Your past relationship might be over, but for some reason you are still on your ex's mind.
An ex will send you a text when they're lonely, especially later at night or in the evening hours. They might be looking to talk, even through IM's or text-messaging, or they might even be looking for some type of a more physical connection.
So what should you do if your ex sends you a text? Well that all depends upon whether or not you want them back. If your breakup was unwanted on your end, a text-message from your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend can really put you in the driver's seat. Your ex initiated a very important type of contact, and no matter what the text says you've been given back a certain amount of control over what happens next.
Do you want your boyfriend or girlfriend back? Jumping to answer your ex's text might not be such a great idea. Instead of demonstrating the neediness associated with an instant response, it's always better to ignore the text for a while. Make your ex sweat... make them wonder where you are, what you're doing, and above all else, who you might be out with. To reverse your breakup you need to seize back some of the power lost when your ex dumped you. What better way to do that than to refuse to instantly answer your ex boyfriend or girlfriend's text-message, and to let them see that you've got a post-breakup life of your own.
If you've been waiting for your ex to contact you, getting a text-message from them can be some very good news. How you handle the text however, is a crucial part of winning back your exboyfriend or exgirlfriend's interest. In getting your ex back you need to know exactly what to do, and exactly when to do it. Any other approach is just winging it.